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Wednesday, January 13, 2010


Would I be willing to work with an international couple? 

A couple from Germany with a few failed pregnancies looking for an experienced surrogate. 

Germany - a country where surrogacy is illegal.

Is there a reason I decided I wanted to get my passport last year?   I wouldn't need to travel overseas to become their surrogate, but I might after to see the baby.  Ya never know.

I have posted a few questions back to the agency.   Then I will talk it over with my husband.  Pray.  Think.   Decide. 

Here are the questions that popped up right away - - -

Are they American citizens living in Germany or are they citizens of Germany?

Legally what are the challenges we would face being international?  Ie – Citizenship for the child(ren), birth certificate etc

Fresh or frozen embryo’s?  

IM’s eggs or are they using an ED?

Do they speak English?

I said things could move quickly, but I thought I would be screened first, but obviously they (the agency) have been thinking about who(m) I should be matched with.   I'll let ya know!


  1. Wow!!! A zillion things ran thru my head too...very interesting situation. One that I first thought is what made the agency pick you as their potential match and have they dealt with this in the past? Along with a million other questions. I cannot imagine everything going thru your head right now. Can't wait to hear more!!!

  2. I was able to get a hold of Mark and gave him a basic run down - he said "Well I guess after we look through the profile we'll know more information."

    I need to go send an email to ask the agency to mail me some information! :)

  3. Wow! I think you are asking some great questions. I will be praying for you.

  4. Loved reading about all the things you love! Its so true, its so you. Best of luck to you whatever you couple you choose.

  5. So that means that in Germany it's illegal for surrogacy to take place, but if they find a surrogate outside Germany it would be treated like an adoption? Or would you be breaking the law?!

  6. Wendy - my brief, somewhat cloudy understanding, is that the child would be naturalized upon return to Germany. In my previous surrogacy agreements we went to court for what is called a 'pre-birth' judgment. That enabled my name to NOT appear on the birth certificate, just the *real* parents. The laws vary state to state and I am sure being international would put an even more interesting spin on something that is already far too complicated. Complicated yet necessary.

    ...and no, I would not be breaking the law. However in some cultures/areas the child might be looked down on (at least that is what I am reading). They (the IP's) might not be able to be open about how their child was born. All depends on the area.

    All this international information adds so much more to this process for me to learn. This is one of the HUGE reasons I use an agency - they work out all the legal details along with my assigned attorney and the IP's lawyer as well. There are certain countries that the agency refuses to work with (and certain states in the US also.) because they can't legally make it work.

    So much to learn....

  7. I was a surro. (with GG too) for a couple from Norway. They are amazing and the whole experience was perfect. It was wonderful for my children to learn first hand about their country/culture. I was very lcuky in that they were able to come and live in the states for months befor the birth.


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